A Dose Of Colemanism: Making Amends Now Means Not Having Regrets Later

By Caprice Coleman

“President Donald Trump has been infected with COVID-19.” When I read that headline, I didn't know how to respond to it.

It’s like something you would see in a movie: “The world is infected with a virus. No one is safe. Not even the President.” But this is real life. I may not agree with the president, but I was shocked at the responses I saw, with some people actually wishing him death.

COVID-19 has infected more than 10 people I know, and I’ve lost seven to this virus. I know it’s not a hoax. However, losing the president to the same disease wouldn’t be any kind of victory, and it’s heartless to even consider it.
This reminded me of an argument I had with my mother. Yes, my mother.

There was a time when she had gotten sick, and after her stay at the hospital, she wasn't taking the precautions she was supposed to. This was a big deal to me because I’m not a doctor, so all I can do is trust what they say in the hope that it brings healing or recovery.

The situation got out of hand, mostly because we had buried my stepfather not too long before that. Emotions were high, so I left her house. When I got in the car, my first thought was: “How would you feel if she died and the last thing that you remember of y’all communicating was this argument?!”

I stopped where I was, turned the car around and went back to my mother's house. I walked inside and SAT AT HER FEET. I apologized to her because I would not know what to do if I lost her. I may not agree with decisions that she's made, but she's my mom. 

I’ve done my share of funerals, and I can always tell which family members were at odds with the deceased. They’re the ones who are crying the loudest or are extremely emotionless because they wish they had another chance to make things right.

Caprice and his mother at the movies prior to the pandemic.
Caprice and his mother at the movies prior to the pandemic.

I know some relationships are toxic. I’m not saying take them out to a movie or get coffee together. But you can free your heart by telling them, “Even though I don't agree with you, I love you.” The death of a friend without making amends is a weight no one wants to carry.

Do you have any friends or family members that you don't agree or get along with, but if something happened to them you’d regret not making things right? Reaching out could be the very thing you need to be at peace. A great sign of maturity is having the ability to disagree without hating.

Just something to think about. I call it a dose of Colemanism. 

Caprice Coleman is ROH’s color analyst and has been wrestling for more than 20 years. He also is an ordained minister and motivational speaker. “A Dose of Colemanism” appears every Thursday.