By Caprice Coleman
As a child, the seesaw was one of my favorites. Yeah, I was the kid who would wait until you were high in the air and tease the drop. It didn’t bother me if it was reversed. I loved it!
As I got older I realized there are things in life that can do us the same way. On the playground, it’s all fun, but in life, it can be catastrophic.
I’m talking about balance.
Goals, priorities, choices, and value are all part of the equation. Finding the right balance between being successful and enjoying life; living the dream without forgetting your values; investing for tomorrow, but making the best of now; providing for the family versus spending valuable time with family. These are real-life balances that we tease seesaw drops in all the time.
I haven’t even started on mental stability, which is another aspect of achieving balance.
The truth is there is no solve-all answer to these questions, but there are some things to keep in mind to assist the choice process.
Tomorrow is not promised but we must be prepared for it. Ensuring tomorrow can lighten today’s load. These things can be set to a definite time frame or schedule. For example, “this is the time I do this” or “after 5 p.m. I am done.”
Family time is an investment that has legacy payoffs. My children rarely remember things I’ve done on TV or championships that I’ve won. But they remember places we’ve been and conversations we’ve had.
Honestly, sometimes my balance is off. My daughter has a way of showing me my “seesawness” (yep, made that word up, but you knew what I meant) by requesting specific time with me. That’s something she shouldn’t have to do.
Choices for today can be easier made if we have our priorities in line. For me, I try to stay with God first, family, then work. Notice I didn’t say religion. This works for me because I know I’m not going to be required by God to put my family aside. He requires me to start with my family.
There have been times when in my head I was “doing this for the family,” but it was really for me and my social status. You’ll have to center your seesaw your way.
One thing’s for sure: a broken seesaw is fun for none.
Just something to think about. I call it a dose of Colemanism.
Caprice Coleman is ROH’s color analyst and has been wrestling for more than 20 years. He also is an ordained minister and motivational speaker. A Dose of Colemanism appears every Thursday.